You probably already know that building good habits is the shortcut to building success. Determination and Willpower are good traits. But they are fleeting and limited and to count on them for building a habit is like having Hope as a strategy.
Most people rely on their will power to stick to a new habit. No wonder new year resolutions don’t even last a few weeks. We have all set resolutions to get fit, study harder, spend more time with family, travel more, start a business and we clock another year without doing any of it.
How can we create and sustain change? How do we set our self up to succeed ? If will power does not work, then what works ?
As humans, we always change over the years. Our bodies, beliefs, tastes in food and clothes, the books we read, the TV shows we watch and many others. If you were to look back at yourself 10 years ago, then you’d realise that you are a very different person now than you were then.
However, some things hardly change. It may be the fact that you have either been a morning person or a night person right from your childhood. Or that you have never liked brinjals. Or maybe you never found studying history fun. Or probably you still bite your nails. These traits have been part of you for so damn long that you never thought that you could get rid of them. In fact they are part of your identity. You may have tried really hard to consciously change these traits at one point or the other. However, doing so feels like you are continuously rapping the knuckles of your automatic self and constantly keeping your brain on a high alert to avoid automatic behaviour. That is tiring and certainly not enjoyable.
However, what if it is possible to change these traits using certain methods to re-wire your brain, such that new behaviour becomes part of you? Anthony Robbins is the leader of a method called Neuro-Linguistic Programming and he believes that you can use this kind of ‘programming’ to re-wire your brain so that it behaves exactly as you want it to, without resorting to will power to rap your knuckles.
Has no Mission or Mission statement!
Has no Vision of where the company wants to be in 10/20 years from now!
Has no Guideline Values to help in decision making!
Has no council of advisors in the form of board of directors!
Occasionally sets annual goals but has no reviews or tracking and is soon forgotten!
Has no Financial Plan whatsoever – Does not know its Cash flow, Profit and Loss Statement or Balance sheet!
Does not feel accountable to its stakeholders to keep them abreast of significant changes or consult when appropriate!
Does not have an incentivisation system that promotes the right behavior!
Friend 1: “Just look at these photos. I too wish to take these type of photos. If only I could save up the money to buy a DSLR, lens and filters.”
Friend 2: “Would you look at this snow-capped mountain in the Himalayas? How I wish I could trek on it. Our tropical town is no good. We’d never get the buy the equipment to go on those exotic treks.”
Friend 3: “Dude, you just wait and see. The day I am able to gather a team of experts around me, I will start my business earning millions. But it’s so hard to hire experts, man.”
We all come across these people who repeat the above kind of sentences every day and insist that their reasons for not starting out on something are very genuine. Lack of resources, lack of facilities, lack of experts and what not! But the one thing that they do not lack at all is EXCUSES. Instead of getting resourceful with what they have and just getting started, they are willing to wait for that utopian day when they have the best of resources, which they assume will automatically enable them to churn out masterpiece after masterpiece.
Let us discover why it is not a good idea to wait for the best resources to fall your way and how not to fall into the trap of ‘excusitis’. Let’s get started on our dreams today!
Have you wondered “I’ve been working for nearly a decade or more now. How is it that my Zero Balance Salary account is stuck forever at that ‘Zero Balance'”
“I started my career with a salary close to what my dad retired with, and in spite of all the generous increments and all these years of hard work I’ll probably own nothing more than what he did when he retired and to top it all I don’t even have a pension”
But more than 90% of his best-selling selling book highlights the failure of the fourth kind. You may have complete knowledge about a subject, you may have gained enough fluency to be an expert and the task ahead of you is completely predictable and smooth. Yet you goof up, because you forgot a step by either not paying attention to it or because some other step distracted you. These are the mistakes that are the easiest to eliminate and yet they keep creeping up in our day-to-day work. In this post, we discuss why they occur and how to eliminate them.
It is not a whole number in either meters or feet…how did the engineers come up with this number.. what made this the standard in this standard gauge.
Let’s examine the reasons:
– Because that’s what it is in UK, who were the original Pioneer of the railways. Ok. But why?
– Because that was the distance of the tram in Pre- rail road era. Ok. But why?
Apparently this is the average distance between the two wheels of a horse pulled carriage of the yester years. The engineers who were developing the rail system, for lack of any reference points took this to be the standard.
And do you know why a two wheel horse pulled carriage had this really odd wheel distance?
Good habits are, often over a period of time, the difference between a roaring success and a crashing failure. Good habits make things possible by setting you in the right direction step by step instead of a whimsical leap of faith. But, there are often habits that once practised and reviewed, DO help you take that leap of faith! One such habit helped me quit my day job, eventually freeing up my time for working on the kind of projects that I had always wanted to work on and do things that I had always wanted to do without worrying about leaves. In this post, I help you discover what that habit is and how much it can liberate you to follow your long put-off dreams.
The first time I gave a speech to an audience was when I was in School. It was an English Eloquence competition, although I had written good essays for a long time, I had never participated in a speech competition though. My main motivation to enroll in it was that there were only 4 participants including me and statistically I had a 75% chance of getting any prizes at all just for showing up.
There is a very popular book by Bill Hogan named, ‘How Do You Eat an Elephant? One Bite at a Time!‘. While the idea of eating an elephant sounds very weird, the metaphor is spot on. The very idea of eating an elephant can overwhelm all our senses at once. However, instead of thinking about how we will ever finish a giant pachyderm in our lifetime, we will inch closer to success, just by thinking about how to eat the next bite. This applies to all our lofty challenges that we set for ourselves. Climbing the Everest, running an ultra-marathon, generating 7 figures of revenue in your business, speaking in front of an audience of 1000, you name it. The common thing about all these goals is that the moment we think about starting on it right now, it is way too overwhelming even just to think about it. So, how do we eat an elephant? Continue reading How to eat an elephant!!