You probably already know that building good habits is the shortcut to building success. Determination and Willpower are good traits. But they are fleeting and limited and to count on them for building a habit is like having Hope as a strategy.
Most people rely on their will power to stick to a new habit. No wonder new year resolutions don’t even last a few weeks. We have all set resolutions to get fit, study harder, spend more time with family, travel more, start a business and we clock another year without doing any of it.
How can we create and sustain change? How do we set our self up to succeed ? If will power does not work, then what works ?
As humans, we always change over the years. Our bodies, beliefs, tastes in food and clothes, the books we read, the TV shows we watch and many others. If you were to look back at yourself 10 years ago, then you’d realise that you are a very different person now than you were then.
However, some things hardly change. It may be the fact that you have either been a morning person or a night person right from your childhood. Or that you have never liked brinjals. Or maybe you never found studying history fun. Or probably you still bite your nails. These traits have been part of you for so damn long that you never thought that you could get rid of them. In fact they are part of your identity. You may have tried really hard to consciously change these traits at one point or the other. However, doing so feels like you are continuously rapping the knuckles of your automatic self and constantly keeping your brain on a high alert to avoid automatic behaviour. That is tiring and certainly not enjoyable.
However, what if it is possible to change these traits using certain methods to re-wire your brain, such that new behaviour becomes part of you? Anthony Robbins is the leader of a method called Neuro-Linguistic Programming and he believes that you can use this kind of ‘programming’ to re-wire your brain so that it behaves exactly as you want it to, without resorting to will power to rap your knuckles.
Has no Mission or Mission statement!
Has no Vision of where the company wants to be in 10/20 years from now!
Has no Guideline Values to help in decision making!
Has no council of advisors in the form of board of directors!
Occasionally sets annual goals but has no reviews or tracking and is soon forgotten!
Has no Financial Plan whatsoever – Does not know its Cash flow, Profit and Loss Statement or Balance sheet!
Does not feel accountable to its stakeholders to keep them abreast of significant changes or consult when appropriate!
Does not have an incentivisation system that promotes the right behavior!
Friend 1: “Just look at these photos. I too wish to take these type of photos. If only I could save up the money to buy a DSLR, lens and filters.”
Friend 2: “Would you look at this snow-capped mountain in the Himalayas? How I wish I could trek on it. Our tropical town is no good. We’d never get the buy the equipment to go on those exotic treks.”
Friend 3: “Dude, you just wait and see. The day I am able to gather a team of experts around me, I will start my business earning millions. But it’s so hard to hire experts, man.”
We all come across these people who repeat the above kind of sentences every day and insist that their reasons for not starting out on something are very genuine. Lack of resources, lack of facilities, lack of experts and what not! But the one thing that they do not lack at all is EXCUSES. Instead of getting resourceful with what they have and just getting started, they are willing to wait for that utopian day when they have the best of resources, which they assume will automatically enable them to churn out masterpiece after masterpiece.
Let us discover why it is not a good idea to wait for the best resources to fall your way and how not to fall into the trap of ‘excusitis’. Let’s get started on our dreams today!
The first time I gave a speech to an audience was when I was in School. It was an English Eloquence competition, although I had written good essays for a long time, I had never participated in a speech competition though. My main motivation to enroll in it was that there were only 4 participants including me and statistically I had a 75% chance of getting any prizes at all just for showing up.
It was the most important day for the batch 292 Basic.
It was the day for which we had all been rigorously training for the last 21 days, waking up at 4 AM to run uphill in the mall road of Darjeeling oblivious to the beauty of Kanchenjunga around , climbing and rappelling rocks, rigorous ice craft training, trekking up the hills of Sikkim with backpack weighing over 25 Kgs and camping at temperature sub zeroes.
What does the term hero mean to me? For me, it represents a person I want to emulate. It is a person whose attributes I want to make a part of my life. It is a person whose life I want to study and learn lessons from, so that when I face a situation that he/she faced, I have an idea and an inspiration about what to do. There is generally an entire tribe of heroes that you follow as they inspire you at different ages, situations and fields. And since stories of heroes can directly affect your decisions in life, it is very important to choose your heroes based on who you want to be and the identity that you want to carve out for yourself.
We all have preferences in life and for me cooking did not make it to the list. Since eating healthy home made food is a choice we have made cooking is a defacto mandatory activity that needs to be carried on every day, often multiple times a day. While my culinary skills haven’t grown leaps and bounds in the last few months…we have learnt a lot during the process of cooking, almost always outside the realm of food.
This simple activity made our cooking enjoyable, driving pleasant, workouts fun, gave us a lot of food for thought while we were still cooking, made us a little bit better every day in numerous ways.