You are driving through a busy street in a city and now you need to park your vehicle. You find a spot that’s perfect to parallel-park your car. So finally, your tiring drive can end. But while backing your car into the spot, you graze your car’s rear into a light pole. This is the side of the car to which you are blind-sided and can’t see all the way, but can only use judgement. There is an ugly scratch and a dent. After a few more twists and turns, you finally park the car properly. But you have the dent and the scratch to contend with. To put it subtly, your parking attempt was a failure. You can take this failure either as a loser or as a person who looks at it as something learnt. Continue reading How do you react to failure?
I had just boarded my flight, tucked my bag under the seat and messaged my parents.
“We managed to board the flight”
Ananya, my friend’s four year old daughter was caught throwing away her socks and when questioned why she did so, she quickly blamed it on her sister who had left for school at least three hours earlier. This was how I too was as a Kid, and am afraid as an adult too for a very long time. I fall into this habit even now a number of times if I don’t catch myself in the act.
Handling Boredom is increasingly becoming a very important skill.
The entire gaming industry, social media, news industry, even online shopping has been built around this one feeling/emotion.
The Way Mind Works
We all remember the moments we had missed a bus/train/flight by a whisker, missed the top college by quarter of a mark in cut off, the stock that we failed to buy/sell in time, the girl you did not ask out but were interested in and that is how the mind works. I am not sure if it is quest for improvement, or just plain negativity, there is always a lot of focus on things that were missed. The dominant feeling in this case is pain and it’s deep.
We all have chores that we hate to do, even in jobs that we love. Sales people who hate to file reports, Finance guys who hate to speak to people, Runners who hate to wake up early in the morning, Kids who hate to eat are more of rules than exceptions. What can we do that can bring joy or atleast make these tasks bearable enough to get them done. Answer lies in ‘Gamification‘.
Gamification – Defined:
Gamification is a great way to have fun while doing a mundane task or motivate others to do such mundane tasks. A good game is one that contains as many as 3 or 4 of the below features:
- A measurable time bound activity
- Clear Outcomes
- Peer Group Involvement
It is said ‘We are what we Eat’. So with the intention of correcting some deep rooted food habits and to examine the possibility of eating healthy on a consistent basis with less or no junk food, I recently went on a ‘No Junk Food’ Challenge for 21 days.
The definition of ‘Junk Food’ in this case included :
1)No Carbonated Drinks
2)No Ice cream
4)No Deep fried foods
5)No processed cheese
6)No desserts with refined sugar/processed flour
Free time, drool! That wonderful chunk of time when we can do ANYTHING we want. Importantly, it as also the time when we DO NOT have to do what someone else expects us to do. But wait! We may not be doing what others require us to do. But are we really spending it on ourselves? Well, sadly we are giving up our free time not by working for someone else, but by following someone else’s story too deeply instead of our own, even if their story isn’t inspiring or important to our own progress. Continue reading How to invest 30 days in yourself
Here is an observation. I regularly convert whatever I love into my lifestyle, rather than just a hobby or a passion. If it is not part of my lifestyle, then I most probably don’t like it enough and will eventually give up on it. Continue reading Is it your hobby, passion or lifestyle?
My Childhood Friends
I have been a voracious reader of books from when I was young. I grew up with the Famous Five and Hardy Boys, matured with Nancy Drew and Perry Mason, spent court rooms with John Grisham, flirted with Sidney Sheldon and explored unknown worlds with Michael Crichton. Now I read mostly non fiction.
Through Books, I have learnt from coaches like Anthony Robbins, Zig ziglar, Business Tycoons like Sir Richard Branson, Akio Morito thought leaders like Dr.Atul Gawande, Tim Ferris, Journalists like Malcom Gladwell, Charles Duhigg and many more.
One idea that kept haunting me through many of these self development literature is that “Leaders are Readers.”I always thought ‘wow, that’s a nice thought’ and nothing more about it. Continue reading How Elon Musk learnt Rocket Science ?